*Coincedence? I think not.*

I am sure that every one has heard somebody at one time or another speak the phrase "What a coincedence!". Used to describe something so ironic, so unbelievable, you kind of can't believe it's happening. Well, I'd like to propose a question. What if there are no such thing as coincedences? What if everything that was so astonishing, so unreal that you would rule out as a coincedence, really happened for a reason? From experience, I am beginning to believe the theory that there are no such thing as coincedences, and that in fact, everything does happen for a reason.
I have been in a number of situations in my past where I was left with the question "Why me?!". I am sure you know what I am talking about. Friendships that ended in a tragic fall out, jobs that I really liked which I got fired from, relationships that dramatically ended, all left me with that same question. Looking at the situation now, from a different angle, I see that these situations made me the exact person I am today; and quite frankly I like that person. If I was still friends with those people I would probably be dabbling in the drugs they're dabbling in, if I had still worked for that company, I would have been out of a job because the office closed down, and if I was still in that relationship I would most likely be even more pathetic than I was when I was in it. Unfortunatley, when your in the situation your dealing with your head is usually so clouded with the "Why me?!" syndrome, that you can't see that it may just be a blessing in disguise. Now, I am not claiming this to be a fact, but just consider the possibility.
However, perhaps, things don't happen for a reason. Maybe it depends on the person dealing with that particular problem. Two people can deal with the same situation in two totally different ways, and maybe it just depends on how people play their hand.
I wonder about these two possibilities often. If things do happen for a reason, then what reason can you fathom when some horrific circumstance happens, like for instance, a child falling terminally ill? Now, what the fuck reason can you come up with for that happening? Excuse my french, but this topic rents a lot of space in my head.
Here is the conclusion I have come up with: some things are just destined to happen. As terrible as some situations are, and as unfair as they seem, sometimes shit just happens. But the beauty of it all, is that we do have a choice on how we can deal with what is thrown at us. I also believe that some things certainly are meant to happen, and that people come in and out of our lives for a reason so we can learn more about ourselves. And if we can learn from everything that comes our way, well, then I think we have solved lifes little riddle.